The Reflected Life

As in water face reflects face, so a (wo)man’s heart REVEALS the wo(man)…Pr. 27:19

Whatever you do, do it with Him. September 29, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — Angie @ 9:19 pm

Ok. So It’s been forever since I’ve written an actual post on here. I’ve been doing more organizing and info sharing with this blog lately, and who knows if it’s been helpful. But today, I want to go back to writing an actual thoughtful blog. If anyone looks at this anymore, I hope it provokes thoughts and reflections on where God fits in the picture of our relationship desires…

Even as young teenagers, we women often desire to be married in the future, and in the meantime, be in love. Of course, as I grew up, I knew in my heart that I only wanted to date ONE man, the man I would marry, whomever that may be…but I still wanted to date him then! When I graduated high school, I was ready baby! I wanted love badly.

Fortunately, I had an amazing network of people in my life, who inspired me in my relationship with God to always be passionate about Him first, and a husband later. As you’ve probably heard me say, I never stopped WANTING to be married, but I always (ALMOST always) wanted it to be in God’s timing…something that He was fully involved in, and that my relationship with Him would never stop. I didn’t know at the time that I would have to wait until I was 6 months shy of turning 30 to get married. I once joked with a group of girls that I was teaching about contentment, that “if I have to wait until I’m thirty to get married, then so be it! I’m going to live my single life with as much purpose as I want my married life to be!” Funny, God. Funny. 😉

My single life was soooo good, that when I actually started dating Andy seriously enough to know that we were likely going to be married, I actually kind of went through a little mourning for my single life, and for the plans I had been making for the next few years (with no expectation of Andy popping into my life). I’m so happy he did, because as happy as I was before, I’m even happier now. But that doesn’t mean that my married life is more fulfilling than my single life was. What it does mean is that my married life is absolutely so incredible BECAUSE my single life was so fulfilling, on purpose, and absolutely without regrets.

I’m going to a wedding tonight, and honestly, weddings are even more fun to go to when you’re married. When you’re single, it’s sometimes a struggle to not be jealous. As a married woman, I can fully enjoy the joy they’re experiencing, as I relive the joy of my own union to Andy. I guess this is why I’m thinking of this. My “New Year’s Revelation” this year is “New Wong.” Learn how to be a wife…not only any wife, but Andy’s wife. The other day I looked up three different versions of the same portion of scripture. Honestly, it’s the most inspiring passage for me, regarding my former purpose (and perhaps your current one) as a single woman, and my current one as a wife. The duties are different. The freedoms are different. The purpose is the same: fulfill the LORD’S purpose, whatever your station in life. At the risk of being long…I’m going to share two of these versions with you. I have more to write on this topic, but for tonight, I’ll just leave with the Word.


“I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I’m trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions.” ~ I Corinthians 7:32-35, The Message


“In all you do, I want you to be free from worry. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. But a married man can’t do that as well; he has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. It is the same with a girl who marries. She faces the same problem. A girl who is not married is anxious to please the Lord in all she is and does. But a married woman must consider other things such as housekeeping and the likes and dislikes of her husband. I am saying this to help you, not to try to keep you from marrying. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few other things as possible to distract your attention from Him.” ~I Corinthians 7:32-35, The Living Bible




How cool?? June 14, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — Angie @ 4:36 am

Pur La Mode went amazingly well, for a first attempt at something like that!!  If you weren’t there, you missed it for sure.  But who knows…maybe another one will be in the future!!  It was so much fun, and I was so proud of all you girls!  You ALL looked beautiful…including those of you who helped but didn’t strut the runway!

I think the word got around pretty well about not having Reflection last night, in the aftermath of such a hectic week getting ready for the show.  We’ll have a pancake breakfast for all of you not going on the Wonder Tour, Saturday June 23rd.  If you’re coming, we’ll get you directions!

Love you girls!  Let me know if you got pictures of the fashion show!!


Fashion Show Next Week! June 5, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — Angie @ 12:33 pm

Pur la Mode

Tickets will also be available at the door!  So come and join us!

Ticket prices are $5 or 2 for $8!  You don’t want to miss this!


Reflecting Your Image Online April 24, 2007

Filed under: Character,Modesty,Safety — Angie @ 1:31 pm

Hey ladies!

Check out this thought-provoking video. This will make you think twice about what you post on MySpace.


Welcome, change! April 2, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — Angie @ 9:17 pm

Change, change, change.  If you didn’t realize this yet about life, you’ll soon find out: change is constant.  Does that make sense?  The whole idea of being “constant” is about staying the same, being able to be relied upon, remaining, holding still, following a steady pattern.  Well, there are only 2 things in life, so far as I know it, that have proven to be constant: 1) The Holy Trinity & 2) change.  What an oximoron!  Change is constant.

If you’ve been to Vertical or Reflection lately, you know that change is in the air.  At least in my life.  But, as I said again, change is always in the air for me, it seems.  Anyway, my husband and I have been praying about our career/ministry paths, and taking a serious look at our finances (::Note: Girls, a word of wisdom, as boring as it sounds…take care of your finances!  Don’t be in debt. Don’t foolishly use credit cards before you even know what damage they can do.  You’ll be so happy in the future when you want to accomplish your dreams…REMEMBER? WISDOM IN ALL AREAS IS DREAM INSURANCE FOR YOUR HEART!)…and in the process, we decided that it’s time for me to go back to the health profession that I was entering into before I took a side path to full time youth ministry.  Of course, it has nothing to do with satisfaction, or not wanting to be with you, or anything else, other than listening to the Lord for the next season of our lives.


At Reflection we talked about this…the next season may not look like what WE predict, even when we know in our heart of hearts what we want to do in the long run.  It’s important to dream, to live in wisdom, and to keenly listen to the direction of the Holy Spirit.  When you’re listening to Him, then you can safely step in directions YOU wouldn’t think make sense, but that He orchestrates for your safety and for your FULL satisfaction and acheivement of the dreams He places in your hearts.  Does that make sense at all?

Andy and I are praying about some opportunities that may even take us out of state!  We weren’t exactly planning that all along, and we certainly don’t know yet what the Lord wants, but we’re praying, following through, listening, and praying some more!  If that happens, I promise that Reflection will live on, and projects we have been working on will not be tossed aside.  And I also promise that I will stay in touch, and be connected with you, if you remain connected with me.  And, if we don’t move, we’re not going anywhere else, and we’re planning on being at Vertical, and Reflection, and we’ll keep plugging away at the constant change that is called Life Church 😉

Change is constant. Change is inevitable. Your response to change is what shows your true character, the wisdom or lack of wisdom you live by, and the relationship you have with the Lord and with people.  I challenge you to be hearers and doers of the Word, and not fear change.  Change happens.  It always will.  And if you’re living a life that allows for no change, I suggest you may be living a sheltered life by fear, and not hearing the Lord for the adventures He longs to take you on!  He’s a moving God. (Not that He isn’t stable, or that he wants us to live flighty lives…your character and faithfulness must remain steady in the midst of change, make no mistake!)

What adventure are you living, girls of God?  Who are you reflecting in the midst of change?


Discretion…what is it? March 6, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — Angie @ 11:20 pm

Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout,

so is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion.

Proverbs 11:22

pig’s snout




What did you think about Wednesday night? February 23, 2007

Filed under: Modesty,Uncategorized — Angie @ 9:57 pm

So Wednesday night at Vertical, the Anti-Venom Tour came with a message about teen sex.  One of the coolest things I learned was about automobiles. Did anyone else find that interesting?  In case you weren’t there, let me fill you in…

 I know this is a very manly example, so maybe I’ll try to come up with a girly one that’s similar.  But here’s the car one:

I KNOW you all have seen this logo before:


Why have you seen it?  Because we see advertisements for Ford every day. T.V. commercials. Billboards. Magazines. Plus, you see a lot of Fords being driven everyday.  Sure, YOU may not be able to afford a Ford at the moment, but most average Americans could own a Ford car, especially used Fords.


Now, do you know what auto maker this symbol belongs to?


Probably not, because you just don’t see these driving around very much.  This is from Rolls Royce.  A 2006 Rolls Royce has a retail value of $328,750 (that’s a monthly payment of $6,750!).  Maybe dollar amounts don’t sink in much…but I’ll just say, no one I know can afford that…and I have over 200 myspace friends, so I know a lot of people! Haha.

 Let’s put it this way: For less than 3 months worth of payments that big, you could more than pay for a Ford Focus!

 Here’s the deal.  Why don’t you see Rolls Royce advertisements on t.v. or billboards? Because they don’t advertise themselves to the masses.  They don’t have to.  They make the best quality cars, and the people with the money to pay for them COME to them.  They only advertise to the people who can afford them.  Why do you see billboards for Ford?  They have to advertise, because they’re cheap.  They NEED your attention.  Who are they advertising to?  The people who can afford them.



Let’s try a girlie example… 

The most expensive oldnavy jeans on their website were $34.50.

A pair of prada jeans may run you, oh, around $295.95, maybe more.

 You don’t really see Prada advertised on t.v. very often. Ever?  I realize, you may see a little more exposure of Prada, than you do of Rolls Royce, because you may actually be LOOKING in the fashion magazines that are trying to make you feel like everyone should be able to afford a wardrobe like that.  But you get what I’m saying, right?



The point?  “Only you can advertise you.”  Who are you seeking to advertise to?  You advertise yourself by what you wear, what you say, and what you do.  If you advertise your sexuality, if you advertise filth with your mouth, if you advertise poor judgment and bad character…you are advertising to attract those who are cheap, with low standards, and who will exploit and use you.  If you advertise simple beauty, classy speech, and honorable lifestyle…you advertise that you have worth, and only those who desire quality and purity need apply. 

Are you desperately trying to gain attention from ANYONE, because you feel like you have NO ONE’S attention?  You can know your worth, and you can find satisfaction in the One who is dying to give you all His attention and love.  You can carry yourself in such a way that sets a standard for the type of quality individual you want to have in your life.


What are you advertising about yourself?



 What other thoughts do you have from the Anti-Venom tour?  What did you think about HPV?  Learn anything you didn’t know?  What did God speak to your hearts?  I want to hear it!